Weiner Weiner Weiner! Shall he go or shall he stay?

The reason talk and reality TV thrives is simple: drama.  It is a known public peep hole into others' lives; their miseries, failures, and rock-bottoms.  We can't put the remote control down.

Obama: "I can tell you that if it was me, I'd resign."

When I say "we", I mean ME.  I love my Bravo reality shows. Notably The Real Housewives franchise, and I love my political happy hours with O'Reilly and Hannity.  When a superstar celebrity goes off-the-rocker crazy (e.g. Britney Spears, Charlie Sheen) or top dog politicians act like high school boys with their pants down, I get sucked into the media frenzy.  I help generate lots of money for cable TV.  I won't lie. (Some of you will say you don't care, shameful to admit you partake in the sensationalism called "media".)

Until Weinergate happened.  As someone who is mesmerized by politics and moderately involved (registered voter, party committee volunteer, party club member), I honestly had never heard of Anthony Weiner.  I only had slight interest because the first Weiner story involved a teenage girl in Seattle... My city.

Also, my happy hour involves Fox News.  I had no choice but to listen to the top story, Weinergate, or change the channel.  I was changing the channel. 

From what I could tell, he was a real dick head to his pregnant newlywed wife; a proven liar to his constituents; and aggressive and condescending to reporters asking the tough questions: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TZ3wN_TNg2U

I knew immediately he was lying.  Why?  It's psychology 101: defensive, aggressive, and squirming a way around answering a yes or no question.  What more do we need to know?  Who cares other than his wife, unborn child, and his employers, the constituents of New York's 9th congressional district?

Should he stay or should he go?

That was the question my loving husband asked me early in the morning late last week, knowing I had only gotten 5 hours of sleep. 

"He should resign", I said decisively.

My answer was a matter of opinion, which I have many.  When my answer didn't measure up to my husband's opinion, that is when the debate began.  (I will save you from reading paragraphs upon paragraphs of our discussion and debate to this....)

The bottom line is this:  He has to answer to his constituents, his wife, and God.  Who cares about what I think.  I don't live in the 9th congressional district of NY.  He doesn't represent me or my state.  If his constituents ask him to resign, he should do so with grace.

And that my friends, was my winning answer in our debate.  The end.

Michael Vick Wants a Dog

"Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future." ~ Oscar Wilde

Like I occasionally do, I was flipping through a silly magazine when a headline grabbed my attention. Like I rarely do, I read that article under that headline in that silly magazine:

Should Michael Vick be allowed to own a dog again?

Vick stated he would like to own a dog. Someday. If the court allowed him after serving probation.

When I read the short article, this news bothered me immediately, because I am a dog lover. The acts Vick allowed on those dogs - dog fighting - was vile. I remember how mad I was when I first heard the news. The anger I had and sadness I felt made me physically ill.

At the end of the article, a question was posed:

"Even if he's a changed man, should [Vick] be granted the privilege of pet ownership?'

 And it made me think: Should Vick get that opportunity? Doesn't everyone want a second chance? Should we give others a second chance, especially if they have been through rehabilitation, if they have served time for their crime, and if they are seriously remorseful?

There are only two choices, in my opinion: Yes or No.

Time Served
Since Vick was released from prison over 19 months ago (after serving 23 months in prison), he has been on probation (3 years, slated to expire Nov. 2012), agreed to federal authorities' request to provide $1 million for the care of the confiscated dogs, and as part of probation, volunteering for the Humane Society.

Remarkably, he has become a spokesperson for the Humane Society against the atrocities of dog fighting; an anti-violence advocate.

Courtesy of The Humane Society

Redemption
The American dream can mean many different things. Usually what comes to mind, for example, is the boy who grew up in the projects only to become one of the best National Football League players. Such as Michael Vick.

The American Dream can also mean redemption. Getting a second chance after falling.  Falling hard.

We see it often in Hollywood. Such as the drunk actor who makes antisemitic remarks only to come back with an award winning movie. Or the songstress who goes off the deep end only to come back with one of the best selling (and listening!) albums of her entire career.

We see it in ourselves. I look back on my erroneous ways and I can't even count on both hands how many second chances I have had in my own life. I see in myself the imperfections. And when I have fallen, all I want is a kind guide to lead me out; to learn from the mistake; to be forgiven, and to be granted a second chance to prove myself. I think now, where would I be if it wasn't for my parents, my friends, my employers, my husband, if they hadn't given me a second chance; if I hadn't forgiven myself; if I hadn't taken to their help to guide me to safety? Who knows! But I probably wouldn't be in the safe haven I am in now. I don't take my mistakes for granted. I am grateful for my falls, grateful for getting up, and grateful to learn and move on.

So there are two key ingredients, I believe, that give my "Yes"  if Vick wants a companion dog:

1. Vick has to learn from his horrific mistake (& that will only be between him, God, and the Federal Judge) and doesn't do it again.
2. Like you, you, me, and all of us, Vick deserves a second chance. 

Because who are we to make that judgment call? Who are we - all sinners, all fallers, all receivers of second chances - to judge Vick, who in the present, is making a dutiful effort to redeem himself, make good of what he made so bad, and move on for himself, the dogs, his family? 

We are not worthy to judge him.

And just like we have come back from the bottom and done good for others, I hope that truly happens for Vick and that he sees the real beauty between man and dog.

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Have an opinion on this matter? Share with me what you think: 

If Michael Vick is a changed man, should he be granted the privilege to own a dog/pet?